Tia Mowry, who announced in October that she and her husband Cory Hardrict were break 14 years after your wedding, you can name the exact moment you found out your marriage was in trouble.
During a visit to TODAY with Hoda and Jenna, the “sister, sister” said the “awakening,” as she put it, came after a change in perspective.
“I knew when I really started to focus on my happiness,” she said Nov. 16 on TODAY with Hoda & Jenna. “I feel like women, we tend to focus on the happiness of others, making sure that everyone is okay, I mean, our children, our friends, our family.
“But at the end of the day, it’s about self-love. When you really start to work on yourself, to love yourself, to know your value and to know your worth, then suddenly this awakening comes. And it’s not easy. It’s a tough ride, but at the end of the day, I feel like it’s so worth it.”
Mowry and Hardrict, who share children Cree, 11, and Cairo, 4, married in 2008. According to court documents obtained by TODAY, Mowry filed for divorce on Oct. 3, citing irreconcilable differences.
Announcing the split on Instagram in October, Mowry wrote: “I’ve always been honest with my fans and today is no different. I wanted to share that Cory and I have decided to go our separate ways,” Mowry wrote. “These decisions are never easy, and not without sadness. We will maintain a friendship as we raise our beautiful children together. I am grateful for all the happy times we had together and I want to thank my friends, family and fans for their love and support as we begin this new chapter in our lives.”
On TODAY, Mowry said that enduring the death of his grandmother and her twin sister’s niece Tamera Mowry-Housley, alaina housleyin close succession, they also contributed to his decision by putting life in perspective.
“I feel like when I started to, again, like I said, focus on myself, but there was this sadness. And he knew that life is short. In fact, I had lost my grandmother. We had lost Alaina Housley. And both at the same time,” she said.
“There was an ‘aha’ moment in me where I was like, ‘You know what? We need to tap to see what is really going on with your happiness. Life is short. Let’s go. Let’s start working on you and really focus on what really matters here, which is at the end of the day, your peace, your joy and your happiness.’”
Mowry credits therapy for helping her make this major life change. “I was also in therapy. I am a big fan of therapy. It was all of that together that gave me that ‘aha’ moment,” she said.
Ultimately, Mowry said he doesn’t see his relationship with Hardrict as a failure.
“My marriage was a success,” he said. “I look at it as a curriculum when you’re in college or high school. You are learning, you are growing, you are evolving, you are creating. I was able to create some amazing and beautiful children with Cory. At the end of that curriculum, there’s a graduation, there’s a celebration. This is basically how I’m looking at it now.
“And I feel like … when (people) look at marriage, success equals longevity. But, no, at the end of the day, are they happy? Are they thriving? Are they growing? I feel like that’s the most important thing. It is not about staying in something because the time you are in that situation equals success. It’s really, again, are you happy? Because life is very short.”
during a appearance on TODAY in October, Mowry-Housley said she would support her twin no matter what.
“I support her,” said Mowry-Housley, 44. “Whatever she wants, the Mowrys have her back.”
This article was originally published on TODAY.com